Kalinda Sharma.

Who else is mesmerized by Kalinda Sharma (Archie Panjabi)? For two and a bit seasons she's been wearing short tight skirts, fitted leather jackets, knee-high boots. Her hair always tied back in a bun. Slightly darkened lips. Her eyes pierce like daggers and she always gets what's she wants. Except the girl.

Kalinda is guarded. Like so many queers I know. Hiding from herself or those close to her.

If you don't know who I'm talking about you should be watching The Good Wife. This legal drama, and my current favourite TV show, depicts sex scenes with utmost subtlety , the height of sexy. Kalinda hardly ever gets action but when she does, it's on. And for a few long breaths we see her soften at someone's lips but never in their arms.

At first I thought it was the writer's way of being liberal by writing in a queer character but not going all the way to develop her story and relationships. But we are into season three and I know the show better. It's subtle. All sexual relationships in this show are subtle, suggestive, slow to develop.

Kalinda has a dark past which it seems is constantly hidden from us. Her name was changed. She lived in Canada. There's shadiness. She's an investigator for the firm who always cracks the case and for this reason she needs to be nondescript, unknown.

But her character is also doing that dance which is so familiar to me, I see it in so may dykes of color. Too scared to get close to anyone. Too guarded to let anyone in. Too tortured to feel anything or act on desire beyond a sultry glance, a shared drink or a steamy kiss in a club.

She is that archetypal sexy, mysterious, draw you in and spit you out kind of dyke we might have all experienced as a coming of age.